Confrontation as a positive and not a negative.
Posted on | January 6, 2009 | 1 Comment
Most people I talk to say they don’t like confronting other people. They don’t like the negativity and possible arguments that can arise from it. I see.
But what else can you do? If it bothers us that much, then the only option is to confront the issue head on. I see confrontation as a positive. It allows me to air an issue out there. It allows me to hear and understand the other person’s side of it. Most communication issues simply lie in the misinterpretation of what is said or implied. Give people the benefit of the doubt that they are rational beings who sometimes can’t communicate effectively.
Confrontation gives me the ability to exercise my conflict management skills. It allows me to grow.
Alot of people would hope the issue would go away. But it never does. It only festers and builds up inside of you. That’s how relationships are broken. I see alot and I mean ALOT of friendships grow apart (especially with female friendships) because of all the underlying tensions that occur.
Life is full of confrontations. Challenge yourself to learn to communicate in a tactful emphathetic way. Are you stating your side or are you stating the other side first? There’s a big difference between the two.
As with most things, it’s all in how we see it. Confrontation can produce positive results.
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January 9th, 2009 @ 10:52 pm
What have you learned from confronting people? How have you grown? In many conversations that you and I have the confrontation results in neither side understanding the other’s point of view. This has been going for a full year now. Not saying I don’t enjoy the conversation and friendship. I’d like to know how you’ve grown to make changes in yourself.
I’m also curious of your statement “they are rational beings who sometimes can’t communicate effectively.” Is it really the person who can’t communicate or is it the listener who interprets the statement incorrectly? I consider Ecological Model of the communication process as a very good basis here. The message from the sender is encoded and decoded using different mediums. The listener hears a totally different message than the sender sent. I think there’s more to communication than simply stating “misinterpretation of what is said or implied.”
http://foulger.info/davis/research/unifiedModelOfCommunication.htm