5 Ways To Win Over A Girl.

Posted on | July 28, 2008 | No Comments

I was looking to create a new CD of the best R&B slowjam songs of the 90s era. I know the 80s was known for great rock. But I felt that some of the best R&B slowjams were found in the 90s. It’s hard to find great memorable slowjams today. In my search of creating the definitive slowjam CD, I ran into Tevin Campbell’s song, “Tell Me What You Want Me To Do” video above. Great song. It’s one that I’ll have to add in addition to Jodeci, Johnny Gill, New Edition, Shanice, and a few others on my list of slowjams.

So the title said it all. Tell me what you want me to do. I couldn’t help but feel a but wonder what exactly would a woman want a guy to do for them. And do guys really know what or how to impress her? Inspired by this, I write my own personal top 5 list (in no particular order) of how to win over a girl. Or at the least, get her attention. Trying to woo a girl can be tougher than landing a new job at times. Seriously. So every guy needs as much help as he can get to differentiate himself from the competition. Here’s mine ;

Write her a poem. It doesn’t have to be anything too heavy especially if you’re in the beginning stages of a relationship. Cute and funny can work if done properly. Most guys don’t have enough within them to write a poem. So if you have some talent in this area, then definitely use it.
Listen and dig deeper. Of course, every girl needs to express herself through communicating. They just want to be understood and feel validated. So it’s important to not just listen but dig deeper. Ask a few follow up questions. If she’s feeling sad, don’t just listen to her expressing her sadness. But go deeper into her predicament. She’s just looking to be understood.
Be funny. I’ve literally had to work on my own humor over the past couple years. I’m not quite sure if I was ever really funny in years past, but I do know that I’m funnier today. At least, that’s what some people tell me. Girls and people in general, like to feel good. When you feel good, you do good. Ever notice how girls always tend to list humor as one of their top three qualities? We just want to feel good about ourselves. And nothing does that better than to be with someone who tickles our funny bones. With some girls I know, my comedic timing is laugh out loud hilarious. And with others, it just kinda fizzles.
Compliment her on something besides her looks. The prettier the girl is, the more likely that she has been told that she’s attractive…like a gazillion times over. Find some other quality to compliment her on. For me, I like a girl who has some sense of style, sophistication, intelligence, and fun to her. If I see that she embodies one of those traits then I will tell her that. But the whole, “You’re so beautiful” line doesn’t work as well nowadays. She wants to know that you value her for more than her looks. Looks will eventually fade for some women and they want to know that you can see past the glamour.
Learn to dance. Girls just tend to be better dancers than guys. Dancing is all about attitude and girls have tons of that going around. lol. If she likes to dance, then you should try to learn to dance. Salsa is a good start. Women are absolutely mad about salsa. Dance is a form of communication and expression. Some girls like a guy who can express himself on the dancefloor, be it salsa, hip-hop, swing, ballroom, and more. Note that if she can’t dance and you can’t dance, then consider yourself lucky.

So the above are things that I found to have worked. Some of the above sound simple but sometimes simple is all you need.

Ladies- I’m curious to know 1 or 2 things that guys can or should do that will win you over. Would love to hear yours.