Apparently, It’s Tough Making Female Friends in DC

Posted on | June 29, 2008 | No Comments

I got into a couple of recent conversations with some females that led to this conclusion.

I have one female friend, Zakia, who has a girlfriend who is from Austin Texas. She was here for a couple of years and she said that it was tough for her to make girlfriends here in DC. She said that girls were generally catty and competitive at times. She’s back in Austin Texas and loving it again now.

I met another girl who is very new to DC. She’s originally from Florida. She is by all means considered attractive. Quite a bubbly personality as well. She says she has a tough time making girlfriends as well. She has an easy time making guy friends. No surprise there as I’m sure she gets hit on enough times. Though, it helps because she’s into sports. But it’s been hard for her to make female friends as well. I have a bunch of female friends than guy friends nowadays. We joked that we should both bring our networks together so I can make more guy friends and she can make more girlfriends.

I have other female friends of mine who have been here much longer and they still have a tough time making girlfriends at times.

The conclusion that Zakia and I came to (well, more Zakia than I), is that girls are quite competitive, catty, and territorial around here. It’s partly due to the transient nature of this city with such an influx of transplants. But this area can be quite superficial as well. People are always on the go and in a rush to be somewhere.

I wonder how much tougher it is here than it is relative to any other big city like LA or NYC? I belong to Meetup and there are alot of girl groups in DC. Probably more than there should be. There are alot of “sister” groups that are always created. There are quite a few 20s and 30s girl groups. There are women over 40 groups. And the list goes on and on. No doubt that these groups are created to fulfill the desire that many girls have to bond with their own.

I’ve lived here my whole life so I don’t always see what others see. Makes you wonder; how much bigger would your social network be if you lived elsewhere?